June 30, 2014- It all began in college, at a Chili’s. I was having dinner with some girl friends of mine, when I realized that the entire dinner had been spent conversing about men, relationships, and the latest drama on the Real Housewives. I wondered…amongst a group of educated twenty-something’s, not one woman spoke of her personal achievements or future career aspirations. It would seem that in a modern and free country, such as the United States, these topics of accomplishments and ambitions would be of more importance to women.
For years, I have been perplexed as to why women in today’s advanced society constantly lower their own expectations of what they can achieve. Whether it’s their personal or professional successes, it’s as if women strategically manipulate themselves into believing they are not worthy of holding the title “CEO”. In fact, it has been proven in a variety of studies that “women will judge their performance as worse than it actually is, while men judge their own performance as better than it actually is.” (Lean In by Sheryl Sandberg) Why is it that women feel so inadequate, especially in their professional endeavors?
I have personally witnessed co-workers, friends, and family who have compromised career goals to make room for a future personal life, although those partners or children may not even exist yet. Even more disappointing, women perceive their success as being a downfall to their attractiveness, fearing their dreams and goals intimidate potential partners. In result, this overwhelming fear hinders women from aspiring towards holding senior level positions in the work place. Therefore, this is the very reason men dominate the executive world.
As a woman who is currently working towards achieving a higher career goal, I can honestly say it is difficult to find the balance between professional and personal success. Finding the confidence to make decisions that may alter my current stability is a constant battle I face with myself. However, I think it is important for women to recognize these feelings of doubt and uncertainty and as result, use them to fuel their drive for higher success. I’ve learned that fearing change only hinders you from reaching personal growth. As women we should be challenging ourselves, and with that comes believing in our abilities. From a young age my mother always told me to be a leader. From that advice, I have found that to be a great leader you must be confident and fearless yet humble in your relationships. I believe that all women can be great leaders, if we break the barrier of what we think we should be according to society and begin living for ourselves. Yes, there will be sacrifices and disappointments; however, life has a funny way of leading us exactly where we need to be.
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Author: McKenzie Welch
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